Monday, August 16, 2010

10 Things a Man Can Do

A Call to Men is a national organization addressing domestic and sexual violence prevention and the promotion of healthy manhood. A Call to Men holds men
accountable for the prevention of domestic and sexual violence. They often team up with women's organizations like Rape Crisis centers. On their website, they have a list of
10 Things Men Can Do In Domestic and Sexual Violence Prevention. I thought it was great so I wanted to share it here.

10 Things Men Can Do

1. Acknowledge and understand how male dominance and aspects of unhealthy
manhood are at the foundation domestic and sexual violence.

2. Examine and challenge our individual beliefs and the role that we play in
supporting men who are abusive.

3. Recognize and stop colluding with other men by getting out of our socially defined roles, and take a stance to prevent domestic and sexual violence.

4. Remember that our silence is affirming. When we choose not to speak out against domestic and sexual violence, we are supporting it.

5. Educate and re-educate our sons and other young men about our responsibility in preventing domestic and sexual violence.

6."Break out of the man box"- Challenge traditional images of manhood that stop us from actively taking a stand in domestic and sexual violence prevention.

7. Accept and own our responsibility that domestic and sexual violence will not end until men become part of the solution to end it. We must take an active role in creating a cultural and social shift that no longer tolerates violence and discrimination against women and girls.

8. Stop supporting the notion that domestic and sexual violence is due to mental illness, lack of anger management skills, chemical dependency, stress, etc… Domestic and sexual violence is rooted in male dominance and the socialization of men.

9. Take responsibility for creating appropriate and effective ways to educate and
raise awareness about domestic and sexual violence prevention.

10. Create responsible and accountable men's initiatives in your community to support domestic and sexual violence prevention.
If you are interested in this group, check out their website. One of their latest missions is to get 5,000 men to say No to violence against women. Click this link here to add your name and become one of these men.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

#8. .... "Domestic and sexual violence is rooted in male dominance and the socialization of men."

I get the dominance part but "socialization of men"? I guess I do need educating because I haven't a clue what that means.

I don't know of any men who are abusers. I'm not saying that no one I know is an abuser or is abused but I am not aware or even suspect anyone.

I think much of the list of 10 is basic and common sense.

I guess there is a difference in occassionally losing your temper (yelling and screaming) and a pattern of abuse/anger.

Perhaps I am showing my naivety but I think statistically speaking abusers are a minority of the total male population. I mean I am 56 years old and I can only recall only becoming aware of two abusers.